The girl’s just not interested

A few days ago I had a conversation with a recent high school graduate at church. She asked me, “Is it possible for a guy to still be interested in a girl, even after she’s made it clear to him that she’s not interested?”

My answer: “Absolutely YES!”

Her: “Crap.”

Here’s what girls need to understand. Guys don’t understand hints. Even if you’re blunt, guys will interpret what you say to mean what they think you meant or what they want you to mean.

Let’s say Guy tells Girl he likes her. Girl thinks Guy is great, but as a friend, so she tells him she’s not interested in him like that.

Girl continues to remain friends with him maintaining their friendship.

Guy’s thought process goes as follows:
She says she’s not interested, but that just means she’s not interested NOW. She’s still talking to me, so she must like me a little. Maybe she’s not sure what she wants. I’ll keep talking to her and keep my interest in her and show her that she really is interested in me, and just doesn’t know it.

Guys are dumb. I’m telling you this from my own personal experience. I have been the one that just could not take the obvious hint that the girl was not interested. I have seen other guys make the same dumb move.

So girls, what do you have to do?

Stop talking to them.

I know, that sounds rough, but the only way a guy will really understand what “Not interested” really means is if the girl completely shuts him down. If you keep talking, you are still interested.

Guys just don’t think with their brains. They think with their hormones.

Have you been on either end of a disjointed interest?

It’s all pointless

“Then I considered all that my hands had done and the toil I had expended in doing it, and behold, all was vanity and a striving after wind, and there was nothing to be gained under the sun.” – Ecclesiastes 2:11 (ESV)

What’s the point of what we do? What is our drive? Our reasoning? Our motivation?

Does it make you happy? Are you satisfied?

Solomon, the king of Israel, the person who was granted all wisdom by God, found all he did to be meaningless.

The work of his hands – meaningless.

The entertaining and pleasurable things – meaningless.

His own great and unsurpassed wisdom – meaningless.

We live, we work, we die, and all is forgotten.

Seems a bit melodramatic, but it’s a place we’ve all been at one time in our lives. The time when we look at ourselves, our lives, our future and ask:

“What’s the point?!”

And Solomon observes:

“There is nothing better for a person than that he should eat and drink and find enjoyment in his toil. This also, I saw, is from the hand of God, for apart from him who can eat or who can have enjoyment?” – Ecclesiastes 2:24,25 (ESV)

It is God who has given us these things to do, and we take pleasure in the duty that God has given us.

Because of Him we take pleasure in what we do.

In Him, we find meaning for our lives.